Online dating started several years ago with the development of the Internet. The grandaddy of all is Match.com. Since its humble beginnings, it has exploded into a multi-million dollar a year franchise, with close to 20M members. It has spawned numerous offspring, such as eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, PerfectMatch, OK Cupid, SinglesNet, True, MyLife, and others.
It is beginning to branch out into specialty dating subgroups such as Brainiac Dating, ChristianSingles, Christian based Love and Seek, XXX-Adult Dating (which is a slick cover for prostitution), PetLoversDate, as well as host of other groups.
I am now waiting for Cowboys & Girls Date, NASCAR Lovers Date, Athletic Singles Mingle, Divorced SingleParents, and whatever the capitalist business mind can possibly imagine. The more specialized the group, the fewer the number of member it has, with some as few as 50K.
Many lure you in with the promise of "free." If you have not figured it out by now, nothing is for free. To answer emails, or in anyway interact with the person interested in your "profile," you have to pony up anywhere between $20 or more per month. Not exactly cheap given the quality of the choices.
There are also other deceptions to separate you from your money. One is called the upgraded or premium member, where you get top slot in the dating dog race. In this particular case, your photo and profile are posted ahead of all others, who choose not to shell out the extra dollar for having the privilege of being seen first
The sites are all fundamentally the same. You adopt a USERNAME, which in a word, ostensibly characterizes you, a photo or photos, and a profile that has several subsections which contain various aspects of your personality, interests, and what you are looking for in a potential mate.
The profiles are predictably the same. Women have their own buzzwords, such as funny, humorus, and entertaining. The men are to be kind, gentle, good-hearted, and financially secure. There is never a peep about any past or current medical or psychological problems. Heaven forbid anyone actually admit that they have or are currently taking Zolof, Xanax, or other psychotropic medication, a cancer survivor, or even admit to being a diabetic. By the way they describe themselves, they are definitely astronaut material..
The photos range from cheesy self-taken ones, where you can actually see the person holding the camera, to professional glamour shots, with the person is in a provocative pose with full make-up, dress, hair, lighting, etc. They are usually accompanied by a headline or caption, which is a truncated sentence that tells you who they are and what they are looking for, such as "Good-Hearted Man", "Mr, Right", or "Prince Charming." There will occasionally be a few "God Fearing" "Christian" or other religious interjections. I have yet to see "Muslim" or "Buddhist" however.
Some have gone to the extremes of setting up webcams and VoIP communication, but this technology is generally reserved for the sexually explicit websites and probably handled by the IT manager of the brothel.
The women in the 45-60 something age range, of which I am a part, tend to be in politically correct terms, full-figured, curvy, and/or BBW (big and beautiful.) As far as their real appearance, they are average, plain, or unremarkable. Personalities range from the princess, diva, narcissist, ego centrist, and snotty, to the gentle, kind, thoughtful, and caring. There does not seem to be a middle ground.
Men are definitely the defacto losers in this game. The male/female ratio is about 4 to 1, which put we men at a distinct disadvantage-maybe.
I am not totally convinced that even Peirce Brosnan could make a favorable impression on these ladies- so what does? It is certainly not intelligence, occupation, financial security, appearance, achievement, or English composition. That really only leaves a few vital statistics such as age, weight, height, and how well they are at stroking a woman's ego, satisfying their need for attention, or attend to their every whim.
My sense is that they (women) are really living in a fantasy world, where they are acting-out the role of Mrs. Robinson seeking "The Graduate." In this way, they are turning back the aging process in virtual time and reality.When a man grows old, he becomes mature, a woman on the other hand, morphs into a hag.
Without physical attractiveness and sexuality, they have little if anything, to offer a man, much less the world. They literally begin to panic, hence the tremendous increase in panic disorders which also leads to depression. To compensate, they begin to shout from the rooftops, or in this case their profiles, as to how beautiful, good, kind, compassionate, and sensual they are.
To take their minds off their own misery, they seek someone who will make them laugh, take them globetrotting, adore them, and recreate life before their husbands divorced them and they were Queen for the Decades.
I am sure many, if not all females reading this blog, will be offended. Unfortunately, truth and reality usually does upset and offend those who are guilty.
by
DoctorKnow 20110805
Friday, August 5, 2011
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Does She or Doesn't She?
If anyone remembers, it was a 60s hair coloring commercial. The answer was "Only her hairdresser knows for sure."
That comment can now be expanded to a number of aspects of contemporary American male/female relationships, everything from sports to sexuality.
Of one thing I am sure, men are no longer men in the traditional sense, and the same holds true for women. When attempting to deconstruct this issue, I came to the conclusion very quickly, that instantaneous everything, especially communication, have changed the nature and complexion of today's relationships.
Because most everything is text driven nowadays, with its lack of being able to see or hear the other person (I know is its possible with a webcam, but that is a poor substitute at best), communication depends on the receiver as much as the sender.
Things get misinterpreted due to differences in ones ability to master the written (typed) word, which can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings. I am not bragging, but I have superior verbal and written abilities. Perhaps my parochial education from elementary school to University has paid off in that respect.
I do have a tendency to use very big words, just habituation (there I go) from having spent so much time in academia. I often get a one or two line response, if at all, without the benefit of capitalization, punctuation, grammar, syntax, or spelling. I mean honestly girls, how hard can it be to run a one or two liner through the spell-check program?
Going back to my original thesis, I believe that she "does not." This can be readily seen in the phenomenon of bodily mutilation AKA tattooing and body piercing as well as a host of other social and psychosocial anomalies. For the life of me, I cannot fathom the idea of why someone would think that putting ink under their skin, which is nearly impassible to remove, or putting a metal bead in their nose or tongue, to be considered cool or attractive.
Of course, self-mutilation is a psychosocial topic of study in its own right. I just keep wondering what drives these people to such extremes? If things were not already bad enough, I come across this incessant silliness and giddiness among women,.especially those looking for "fun, humor, laughter, and excitement." Seriousness among men is now considered a mortal sin. Anyone engaging it should be tarred and feathered as far as many women are concerned.
If you are unable or unwilling to keep your potential mate in a constant state of laughter, or humor them 24/7, then you are little better than the trash man, and oftentimes get treated as such.
If I could wave a wand and clone all women, it would be the characters that Amanda Tapping plays in "SG-1," where she is the attractive, intelligent, but reserved astrophysicist of the team, that lets her commander, Colonel Jack O'Neill (Richard Dean Anderson) believe he is in charge. She always defers to him and respectfully calls him "Sir." I am often referred to as either a shi**ead, anal orifice, or other non-complimentary epithet. I do not recall the last time I was referred to as "Sir" unless the other person was on the payroll.
Not so similar, but equally impressive, is her role as Dr. Helen Magnus in the series "Santuary." Yes, I know many of you are thinking this is silly, sci-fantasy, but it characterizees our roles a humans very well. There seems to be a rather high correlation between IQ and the ability to appreciate this genre of media.
If you find this and my other blogs boring or immaterial, then you have tipped your hand and it would be best if we had nothing to do with each other. If you can appreciate what I am saying, then you are definitely someone I would like to get to know better.
The population of such women is on the verge of an extinction level event, and given my age, time is short. However, that does not mean I am desperate or would compromise on what I consider pertinent issues.
To each his/her own as it is said.
by
DoctorKnow 20110803
That comment can now be expanded to a number of aspects of contemporary American male/female relationships, everything from sports to sexuality.
Of one thing I am sure, men are no longer men in the traditional sense, and the same holds true for women. When attempting to deconstruct this issue, I came to the conclusion very quickly, that instantaneous everything, especially communication, have changed the nature and complexion of today's relationships.
Because most everything is text driven nowadays, with its lack of being able to see or hear the other person (I know is its possible with a webcam, but that is a poor substitute at best), communication depends on the receiver as much as the sender.
Things get misinterpreted due to differences in ones ability to master the written (typed) word, which can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings. I am not bragging, but I have superior verbal and written abilities. Perhaps my parochial education from elementary school to University has paid off in that respect.
I do have a tendency to use very big words, just habituation (there I go) from having spent so much time in academia. I often get a one or two line response, if at all, without the benefit of capitalization, punctuation, grammar, syntax, or spelling. I mean honestly girls, how hard can it be to run a one or two liner through the spell-check program?
Going back to my original thesis, I believe that she "does not." This can be readily seen in the phenomenon of bodily mutilation AKA tattooing and body piercing as well as a host of other social and psychosocial anomalies. For the life of me, I cannot fathom the idea of why someone would think that putting ink under their skin, which is nearly impassible to remove, or putting a metal bead in their nose or tongue, to be considered cool or attractive.
Of course, self-mutilation is a psychosocial topic of study in its own right. I just keep wondering what drives these people to such extremes? If things were not already bad enough, I come across this incessant silliness and giddiness among women,.especially those looking for "fun, humor, laughter, and excitement." Seriousness among men is now considered a mortal sin. Anyone engaging it should be tarred and feathered as far as many women are concerned.
If you are unable or unwilling to keep your potential mate in a constant state of laughter, or humor them 24/7, then you are little better than the trash man, and oftentimes get treated as such.
If I could wave a wand and clone all women, it would be the characters that Amanda Tapping plays in "SG-1," where she is the attractive, intelligent, but reserved astrophysicist of the team, that lets her commander, Colonel Jack O'Neill (Richard Dean Anderson) believe he is in charge. She always defers to him and respectfully calls him "Sir." I am often referred to as either a shi**ead, anal orifice, or other non-complimentary epithet. I do not recall the last time I was referred to as "Sir" unless the other person was on the payroll.
Not so similar, but equally impressive, is her role as Dr. Helen Magnus in the series "Santuary." Yes, I know many of you are thinking this is silly, sci-fantasy, but it characterizees our roles a humans very well. There seems to be a rather high correlation between IQ and the ability to appreciate this genre of media.
If you find this and my other blogs boring or immaterial, then you have tipped your hand and it would be best if we had nothing to do with each other. If you can appreciate what I am saying, then you are definitely someone I would like to get to know better.
The population of such women is on the verge of an extinction level event, and given my age, time is short. However, that does not mean I am desperate or would compromise on what I consider pertinent issues.
To each his/her own as it is said.
by
DoctorKnow 20110803
Is a Sea-Change Right Around the Corner?
The first term used about 2 decades ago was the "gender war." Today, it look as though it has gone nuclear. I have seen changes in male/female relationships that I never thought I would live to see, even in my wildest dreams.
The motive was to establish equality among the sexes, which became legally formalized by law through affirmative action. This left an exceptionally unlevel playing field for the American male. Instead of gaining acheivement through hard work and applying ones self, it became a matter of gender, skin color, or race.
Men started to lose ground beginning then, and it has accelerated at breakneck speed. It no longer is a matter of how hard you work at something, you are not going to make any meaningful achievments on that basis in today's world.
We became very close to becoming a Matriarchy during the reign of Queen Hillary, but men finally got off their duffs when their livlihoods where threatened. The miltia movement, a kind of paramilitary "acting-out" among men, scared the bejeezus out of the establishment.
Men began to physically take up arms, started paramiltary groups and drills, and generally threatened to go to war with the status quo. As soon as reality set in on the hill, they first went though great lengths to quash as many as they could, but for every one success, there were two failures.
We are now at a standoff, but tension can be felt in the air. Women are becoming not only assertive, but downright aggessive as in snarling. Many men are now just say to heck with it and are filing the divorce papers. Since most of the women are empty nesters, there is no longer the threat of hefty child support extortion and all but a few States have done away with alimony.
This has left the Feminazi movement in Limbo. Nature abhors a vacuum, physically or socially, and will do anything to fill it. The "filling-in" process has already begun in the shape of many men now marrying outside of their own race, ethnicity, religion, or socioeconomic group.
The end result is going to be a sea-change in the way women have gotten by since the 70s. They are beginning to age rather quickly, and it is noticable when one sees public photos of the person and then meet them in the flesh.
The person you meet, vaguely resembles the person in the photo, because the photo was taken decades earlier. These women are used goods and having to resort to online dating, because if they are still in the workplace or in an environment where they have physical contact with the opposite sex, their male counterparts will not touch them with a 10 foot pole.
Many are playing Mrs. Robinson, seeking out the young and virile and gaining the well deserved reputation of "cougar." So, where will this all end?
I only see two possibilites. Either they (women) will get their collective arses together and become a gentler, kinder species, or they will wind up as white haired, little old ladies toodling about in their electric scooters or Hoverounds in assisted living or nursing homes, where the only male companionship they will find is the housekeeper or orderly.
Yes it is a cruel world, but much of it is due to our own making. These women know deep down, it is about "game-over" time, but they are clinging hard and fast to their illusion. They are shouting from the rooftops to anyone who will listen as to how beautiful, funny, exciting, and pristine they are.
This is known in psychological circles as self-delusion. Perhaps, that is why anti-depressants are still the number one seller among women and why the divorce rate remains stubbornly high at 50% or more.
However, I have no sympathy for these people. They took advantage of the good intentions of men, and how it has backfired on them. However, the circle will not complete itself at least for another decade when the "mirror-mirror on the wall chant" no longer works and they truely realize that their time has passed.
DoctorKnow 20110803
The motive was to establish equality among the sexes, which became legally formalized by law through affirmative action. This left an exceptionally unlevel playing field for the American male. Instead of gaining acheivement through hard work and applying ones self, it became a matter of gender, skin color, or race.
Men started to lose ground beginning then, and it has accelerated at breakneck speed. It no longer is a matter of how hard you work at something, you are not going to make any meaningful achievments on that basis in today's world.
We became very close to becoming a Matriarchy during the reign of Queen Hillary, but men finally got off their duffs when their livlihoods where threatened. The miltia movement, a kind of paramilitary "acting-out" among men, scared the bejeezus out of the establishment.
Men began to physically take up arms, started paramiltary groups and drills, and generally threatened to go to war with the status quo. As soon as reality set in on the hill, they first went though great lengths to quash as many as they could, but for every one success, there were two failures.
We are now at a standoff, but tension can be felt in the air. Women are becoming not only assertive, but downright aggessive as in snarling. Many men are now just say to heck with it and are filing the divorce papers. Since most of the women are empty nesters, there is no longer the threat of hefty child support extortion and all but a few States have done away with alimony.
This has left the Feminazi movement in Limbo. Nature abhors a vacuum, physically or socially, and will do anything to fill it. The "filling-in" process has already begun in the shape of many men now marrying outside of their own race, ethnicity, religion, or socioeconomic group.
The end result is going to be a sea-change in the way women have gotten by since the 70s. They are beginning to age rather quickly, and it is noticable when one sees public photos of the person and then meet them in the flesh.
The person you meet, vaguely resembles the person in the photo, because the photo was taken decades earlier. These women are used goods and having to resort to online dating, because if they are still in the workplace or in an environment where they have physical contact with the opposite sex, their male counterparts will not touch them with a 10 foot pole.
Many are playing Mrs. Robinson, seeking out the young and virile and gaining the well deserved reputation of "cougar." So, where will this all end?
I only see two possibilites. Either they (women) will get their collective arses together and become a gentler, kinder species, or they will wind up as white haired, little old ladies toodling about in their electric scooters or Hoverounds in assisted living or nursing homes, where the only male companionship they will find is the housekeeper or orderly.
Yes it is a cruel world, but much of it is due to our own making. These women know deep down, it is about "game-over" time, but they are clinging hard and fast to their illusion. They are shouting from the rooftops to anyone who will listen as to how beautiful, funny, exciting, and pristine they are.
This is known in psychological circles as self-delusion. Perhaps, that is why anti-depressants are still the number one seller among women and why the divorce rate remains stubbornly high at 50% or more.
However, I have no sympathy for these people. They took advantage of the good intentions of men, and how it has backfired on them. However, the circle will not complete itself at least for another decade when the "mirror-mirror on the wall chant" no longer works and they truely realize that their time has passed.
DoctorKnow 20110803
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